Publisher: Scribner
Publication Date: February 2013
Categories: Literary, Personal Memoirs
Source: Scribner
Description:
A decade in the writing, the haunting story of a son’s quest to understand the mystery of his father’s death—a universal memoir about the secrets families keep and the role they play in making us who we are.
Michael Hainey had just turned six when his uncle knocked on his family’s back door one morning with the tragic news: Bob Hainey, Michael’s father, was found alone near his car on Chicago’s North Side, dead, of an apparent heart attack. Thirty-five years old, a young assistant copy desk chief at the Chicago Sun-Times, Bob was a bright and shining star in the competitive, hard-living world of newspapers, one that involved booze-soaked nights that bled into dawn. And then suddenly he was gone, leaving behind a young widow, two sons, a fractured family—and questions surrounding the mysterious nature of his death that would obsess Michael throughout adolescence and long into adulthood.
Finally, roughly his father’s age when he died, and a seasoned reporter himself, Michael set out to learn what happened that night. Died “after visiting friends,” the obituaries said. But the details beyond that were inconsistent. What friends? Where? At the heart of his quest is Michael’s all-too-silent, opaque mother, a woman of great courage and tenacity—and a steely determination not to look back. Prodding and cajoling his relatives, and working through a network of his father’s buddies who abide by an honor code of silence and secrecy, Michael sees beyond the long-held myths and ultimately reconciles the father he’d imagined with the one he comes to know—and in the journey discovers new truths about his mother.
Finally, roughly his father’s age when he died, and a seasoned reporter himself, Michael set out to learn what happened that night. Died “after visiting friends,” the obituaries said. But the details beyond that were inconsistent. What friends? Where? At the heart of his quest is Michael’s all-too-silent, opaque mother, a woman of great courage and tenacity—and a steely determination not to look back. Prodding and cajoling his relatives, and working through a network of his father’s buddies who abide by an honor code of silence and secrecy, Michael sees beyond the long-held myths and ultimately reconciles the father he’d imagined with the one he comes to know—and in the journey discovers new truths about his mother.
A stirring portrait of a family and its legacy of secrets, After Visiting Friends is the story of a son who goes in search of the truth and finds not only his father, but a rare window into a world of men and newspapers and fierce loyalties that no longer exists.
Thank you to Scribner for sending me this wonderfully written and illuminating memoir. Thank you to Michael Hainey for sharing his deeply personal story with all of us.
This book sounds crazy fascinating — and the cover design is stunning, which is always a plus. I need to read more personal, investigative, journalistic things!
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I agree. I think the book, at first blush reading about it, didn't sound that exciting, but as I read more, it really sounds fascinating.
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This sounds so good! I'm so glad you wrote about it or I wouldn't have heard about it. Thanks!
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This is a beautiful story. I hope you'll find time for it someday 🙂
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I wasn't quite sure about this at first either. But once I started reading I was all in 🙂 Thanks so much for visiting me here!
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You're welcome Nadia! It's a lovely book. 🙂
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You've got me curious about this one!
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I'm glad to hear that! 🙂
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Family mysteries like this are always really intriguing. Sounds like a good read!
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I agree. Especially when they are told so well 🙂
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I want!
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Ha! I don't blame you! It's a good one 🙂
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After Visiting Friends sounds like an intriguing memoir. Thanks for the recommendation.
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You're welcome 🙂 This is a great read!
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